Family Business Workplace Conflict Resolution

As business owners we are often trapped by the unintended results of untested assumptions. After all we’ve been in business a while, maybe a long while, and we’ve been successful so far.

Often that only means we’ve guessed right about trends, our competitors, what products to stock etc. – more often than we’ve been wrong. What’s the expression, “It’s better to be lucky that good?”

Well when it comes to managing workplace conflict being lucky is all we often have going for us. What if our luck runs out?

Let’s say that everything seems OK, no confrontations and no harsh words so we assume everyone is happy and working at optimum effectiveness. So, using the time honored tradition of “letting sleeping dogs lie” you just go on your merry way.

Since the “if it ain’t broke don’t fix it” rule is being applied the last thing you want to do is engage your managers and employees in honest communications. And you sure don’t want to try to institute a conflict resolution and management strategy. Hey, why rock the boat – things are fine the way they are.

However, every company has a conflict management strategy in place, on purpose of by default. In the default program you just assume that when there is no smoke there is no fire. This could be the death of your company and your happy home.

Here are three business killing problems that are the result of this unseen quiet conflict.

First are the costs associated with a gradual lowering of productivity and motivation. Rather than coming back from their car and opening the store when someone swings into the parking lot just after closing, they pretend they don’t see them and drive away – leaving the customer (or now ex-customer) fuming in the parking lot.

Instead of coming in early to meet a customer, skipping lunch so a package can be ready when the UPS driver makes his pick up, or volunteering to work after closing on the month end report. Subtle, “it’s not my job” feeling begin to spread around the business.

What is the cost of this to you, to them, your customers, etc.? How can the trend be reversed?

Second is the real money out of your pocket costs associated with employee theft, damage, or even vandalism. Someone leaves the keys in the back door “accidentally” and a bunch of kids trash the place.

One of your “trusted” employees leaves a truck in gear when they get out to check how close it is to the building, and it crashes into a customer’s car in the parking lot. Or someone “carelessly” mislabels an entire shipment that must be replaced and overnighted to the customer at great expense. i think you get the point.

Each of these examples could have been an accident or not. Each of them took money right out of your pocket.

Finally the worst possible scenario – decisions made by silently disgruntled managers. You may never know the actual cost. You trusted them to use their best judgement. You looked to them to investigate alternatives. You counted on them to put the company first. And if they didn’t you won’t know which decisions were flawed intentionally, even after the fact.

Decisions that drastically impact performance and profitability are often so buried in the labyrinth of actions that make up the steps leading to the final decision – the one you signed off on, that you’ll never know it.

So, what can you do?

Well you could buy a book, I know a couple of really good ones. You could do nothing, hope for the best and be willing to live with the results you’re achieving until something boils over so you can confront it. Or you can begin a campaign of communication between yourself and your managers and employees.

In my experience this simple, yet often difficult process is the first step. About 100% of the problems we’ve seen in the workplace are the result of assumptions and expectations about the present and future of the individual – based on mixed messages and untested assumptions arising from those mixed messages.

Lewis Carroll, in “Alice in Wonderland” said it perfectly, “I know you believe you understand what you
think I said, but I am not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant.” It makes me wonder if he ever worked in the family business.

Open communications up and down the chain clear the air, establish real expectations and have the result of getting everybody on board.

The second step in the process is to get outside help, not advice – help from your peers. Other people like you in situations like yours and in your industry are the folks perfectly positioned to be a sounding board and an advocate. These peers will help you and you them as you all deal with the issues that will make a huge difference in your future.

Just because everybody seems happy, doesn’t mean there is no hidden deadly conflict brewing.