How do you deal with gossiping in the workplace?
We're in the process of developing norms/rules of conduct; we have great meetings discussing how we're to deal with conflict resolution, meeting etiquette, communication, and the rest. They're great meetings, but afterwards, a few of the woman (all female dept except for the boss) start in on the gossiping and it's not very friendly (althought they hide behind "I'm just being honest" a lot).
At least I'm picking up first hand that this is so not cool and just mean spirited, but I would love to say something to one of the ladies (we're friendly) without making the situation worse. So far, I've just excused myself from the conversations and kept my mouth shut (I don't feel that it's appropriate to tattle to management).
What would you suggest? Have you had similar situation on the job and how was it handled?
Thanks!
You could say….
"Wow…that doesn't sound like Leigh Ann….I'm sure you wouldn't mind me asking her about this…"
If worked for me….I was no longer in the loop….and I wound up becoming the manager….
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Excuse youself and keep you mouth shut……….works……..well
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If you happen in on a conversation, just leave and disregard it.
If you are brought into it say "I don't discuss anything about another person behind their back that I wouldn't say directly to them, and I think this would offend the person, so I don't wish to discuss it."
Feel good about what you said, and stick to it – period. The other person might shun you, but that's OK.
Also think – how would I feel if the other person were saying this about me behind my back? Would you like it?
If the person(s) usually doing this type of catty conversation continues (and it IS toxic! and demoralizing to the whole company) then talk to your supervisor privately and explain who it is and your feelings about it.
If non of these works, then remove yourself from it so that you are never accused of being part of it.
Andi, HR Specialist
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You could say….
"Wow…that doesn't sound like Leigh Ann….I'm sure you wouldn't mind me asking her about this…"
If worked for me….I was no longer in the loop….and I wound up becoming the manager….
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There is not much you can do. Just come in and do your job and dont get in the mix.
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