Sex/Small Business Conflict?
My fiance just started a full-time job and runs a business at home. Just as he started his full-time job, his clients all came at once thru his home business. He’s busy!
We argued this:
I say , the benefit of having your own business is U make your own hours, you work as you choose, with respect to your clients time as well, but also respect to your family time.
he says: yes, but he thinks the benefit lies in the profit.
I agree, but I think he needs to manage his time better.
A little time as he has, he needs to make a plan to work ONLY a certain amount of hours a day, the rest is family time.
He seems to not have a plan, a consistent schedule and that interrupts our "playtime" and spending time with the kids.
Last night, I wanted to "play" but he had to work. I asked himt o wake up early with me as I get read for work and he can work then, he refused b/c he cannot wake up so early.
We love each other and are quite faithful.
Am I on the right track w/ small business/family time!
I work full-time as well.
This isn’t exactly a new business. He;s had it for almost 4 years, BUT it’s been very unorganized. No business plan, etc.
His inability to organize and be responible with management is what is my main issue.
One of the biggest downfalls to working at home is scheduling… most who lose their family or have arguments/discord over it comes from a person who is not managing their time effectively.
So I think you are correct that he needs to set some sort of schedule and limit to his working hours for the good of the family.
HOWEVER, if his long term goal is to quit his FT job and work only his home biz… then that takes some sacrifice initially to bulk up the biz so that he can quit.
So if this is his plan, then yes he is correct that the bottom line is the profit. Is it enough to quit his FT job.
Of course then you mention there are kids… which means the FT job is bringing benefits that working at home won’t offer or that will cost you out of pocket to pay for your own insurances.
So in that case… I could see where he would still want to keep his FT job. He has to provide for his family.
So you are in a pickle.
So my advice is that it is time to have a family meeting. Find out what his long term goals are, he may have them even though it isn’t evident to you. Find out if he has a business mentor, and if not suggest he get one. He can contact the local chamber of commerce and find someone usually. THis person can help him come up with a solid business plan to get where he needs/wants to be.
Ask him to set business hours that work for the family. Express what your needs are and how they are not being met. But at the same time let him know that you are proud of his accomplishment with the business and you would be willing to help him out as much as you can during his home biz hours. That way he can get more accomplished in the shorter time (since you will be helping) and still have time for the family.
Balancing family and work is really hard… but it can be done. And if he doesn’t want to "play" at night… then just wake him up in the morning to "play"… very few men would turn that down. LOL.
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So… you are complaining that your husband is working two jobs to support your family?
Get off your lazy butt an get a job! that way you both will only have to work one job and you will have more time for eachother
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My husband and I are going through the exact same situation. I have 2 small businesses and am up most the night. He gets mad at me when I try and work a little longer because services=money=profit=food on the table. I think that this is because my business is still new and I don’t want to screw it up. So I dedicated all of my time to it. he may be thinking the same way. I guess a suggestion would be to catch him off guard and just take what you want…at least until the "new" business dies down.
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I think you should tell him that even though he works a home his kids will still be unhappy b/c although they have their dad they don’t really talk or spend time with him and this will eventually affect them, and also tell him that your love life is in danger of extinction.
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owning your own business can put stress on your relationship. because its alot of work. You need to be understanding but he should also give you some time as well.
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One of the biggest downfalls to working at home is scheduling… most who lose their family or have arguments/discord over it comes from a person who is not managing their time effectively.
So I think you are correct that he needs to set some sort of schedule and limit to his working hours for the good of the family.
HOWEVER, if his long term goal is to quit his FT job and work only his home biz… then that takes some sacrifice initially to bulk up the biz so that he can quit.
So if this is his plan, then yes he is correct that the bottom line is the profit. Is it enough to quit his FT job.
Of course then you mention there are kids… which means the FT job is bringing benefits that working at home won’t offer or that will cost you out of pocket to pay for your own insurances.
So in that case… I could see where he would still want to keep his FT job. He has to provide for his family.
So you are in a pickle.
So my advice is that it is time to have a family meeting. Find out what his long term goals are, he may have them even though it isn’t evident to you. Find out if he has a business mentor, and if not suggest he get one. He can contact the local chamber of commerce and find someone usually. THis person can help him come up with a solid business plan to get where he needs/wants to be.
Ask him to set business hours that work for the family. Express what your needs are and how they are not being met. But at the same time let him know that you are proud of his accomplishment with the business and you would be willing to help him out as much as you can during his home biz hours. That way he can get more accomplished in the shorter time (since you will be helping) and still have time for the family.
Balancing family and work is really hard… but it can be done. And if he doesn’t want to "play" at night… then just wake him up in the morning to "play"… very few men would turn that down. LOL.
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If you start a small business,you have to set hours and stick with them. If his full time job cuts into these hours,then he needs to change the hours to allow for his full time job and his home life.A person should not start a small business if he can’t handle the hours he must put in ,on top of a full time job.
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From personal experience
wot dyu mean he’s ”quite” faithful!!?!?!?
anyways the rolse of the female in the relationship is to get him organised before the business fails, coz that is what WILL happen if you dont step in.
you can start with the small things, like organising places for him to put his diff sort of papers, coz at first he’l prob be very touchy about you touching his stuff, so you work indirectly, like making the places for the diff stuff.
etc!
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