You see the problem starts even before the two individuals confront each other. They are already "primed" to be set off by the other by the “needy state” they find themselves in.

So what can be done to address this?

Well the answer is to "diffuse" the emotional, mental and behavioral effects of the "needy state" first.

I will give an example of how this can be accomplished here.

Let's look at the usefulness of being in the "needy state".

Some might suggest that it:

1. Helps you get your need met, so that,

2. You will feel fulfilled, satisfied, calm, happy, joyful and at peace.

In other words: (A) The "needy state" makes you feel fulfilled, satisfied, calm, happy, joyful and at peace.

Now does that sound like the experience of "being" in that needy state? Absolutely not!

So is statement (A) true or not? Well I think that you can see that it is false, correct?

If so then simply admit that to yourself now.

Now does the "needy state" itself feel "toxic" to you?

If so then admit that to yourself now.

Now do you want?

a) Statement (A) living inside you?
b) The needy state living inside you?

If not, then from deep within yourself make a request that they both be purged from your body and your life forever.

Now notice how you feel.

I think if you've followed me so far that you feel more able to congenially and calmly address your situation with others now.

Dr. Nick Arrizza is trained in Chemical Engineering, Business Management & Leadership, Medicine and Psychiatry. He is an Energy Psychiatrist, Healer, Key Note Speaker,Editor of a New Ezine Called "Spirituality And Science" (which is requesting high quality article submissions) Author of "Esteem for the Self: A Manual for Personal Transformation" (available in ebook format on his web site), Stress Management Coach, Peak Performance Coach & Energy Medicine Researcher, Specializes in Life and Executive Performance Coaching, is the Developer of a powerful new tool called the Mind Resonance Process(TM) that helps build physical, emotional, mental and spiritual well being by helping to permanently release negative beliefs, emotions, perceptions and memories. He holds live workshops, international telephone coaching sessions and international teleconference workshops on Physical. Emotional, Mental and Spiritual Well Being.

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